Grieving For Your Pets

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What am I gonna do without you?


Hey folks. Welcome back to thedoggyperspective.com. In today’s article I am taking a look at grieving. Grieving for your pets. Sigh. It’s hard. I was torn apart this morning by a post I read on losing one of many pets. In particular, this individual spoke to the fostering of kittens. Four kittens to be exact. Once the kittens were prepared for adoption, SURPRISE! The foster family adopted all four kittens.

They lost two kittens shortly thereafter. A while later, one more of the four passed away. As time goes by, the last of the group stopped eating. Two weeks passed by without any food or water. As you can imagine, the cat withered away. Finally,. It hid. Then died in its hiding space. That’s not what inspired me to write. It’s the pet parent. You see, he left the dead cat out for a while so that the other pets in the home could visit with its body. There are at least three dogs and a couple other variety there.

The cat was cremated. The owner admits to having difficulty letting go of the pet. By that, I mean its cremated body remains. He still has the ashes. That’s not weird. But he says he has boxes of ashes packed into his home from the last past 30 years of cremated pet remains. Here is where I’ve become concerned. This cannot be healthy! This cannot be healthy for the pet parent, nor for the animals residing at his home. Can you imagine? As one of those pets, think, I must be going into the ashes boxes. Who could live a long healthy life there, knowing that in the after life, the pet owner won’t let them go?

It may be impossible for me to fully relate. I can’t imagine a day without letting go of Sophia. She loves the wind. She loves the sunshine. The rain is a bummer but, hey! We go out there anyway. She reigns supreme in the cold and snowy weather, looking more majestic. I venture to say that on some days, she appears HOLY. Even in death, I know implicitly that I must let her go. Probably, into the places and spaces where she was forbidden. The thicket with the thorns. The fox holes. The tree with the wide and deep burrow. The middle of the street. The places that intrigue her, but scare the crap outta me. In the afterlife and with my blessing, she can now go there. Sigh.


  • Pet Loss Grief Support Hotline                          https://daybydaypetsupport.com/24-7-hotline/
  • Your Local County Animal Shelter
  • Your Local Funeral Home
  • Your Veterinarian
  • Online Support Groups              *Facebook *Instagram *Pinterest
  • Memorial Jewelry and Keepsakes                    www.spiritpieces.com

Do yourself a favor. Honor them as you would a beloved family member. It is okay to grieve. Give yourself permission to cry. Then handle it, please.


Okay guys. That’s it. It is important that you realize the end of life process for your pet. If your funds are limited, consider Pet Life insurance. It may help cover disposal and funeral expenses too. And folks, take care of yourselves.

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  1. Nice article. Making people go through hard times after losing a beloved pet. I have this friend. She had a cat. And I dunno, I got attached to the cat. When she finally lost it, it became something else. She became unstable and had to see a psychiatrist for medical attention. It was not easy at all.

  2. I just finished reading your post on losing pets, and grieving for them. I can relate, I have lost cats and dogs both, and it is very hard to let them go. Last year, we had our last cat, whom had been with us for fourteen years, put to sleep due to ill health. It was very difficult. We had him buried on my sister-in-law’s property, in the grass and sun. I know I miss him immensely. There are times that I look for him to be laying on the back of the couch and he is not there.
    This was an enormously touching post. I know that all pet mothers and fathers can relate to the topic. It was well written, and certainly speaks to the processes of letting pets go. I also agree that keeping the remains in a person’s house is probably not healthy, but if there is no other place to go with them, such as in the city, it truly is no different than keeping the cremated remains of human loved ones. It may seem creepy, but some people need to keep those memories alive. And as I mentioned previously, perhaps he simply does not have another place to go with the remains. And, another thought, perhaps he is a little bit like a hoarder, who simply cannot let go of things due to a mental illness.

    This post was well thought out, and sensitive to people who have lost pets. I look forward to reading more posts from you.

    Molly G.

    • Molly, thank you. You have such a way with words. I did not once stop to think that maybe there was no outlet, and absolutely nowhere to turn for this individual. And, or that mental illness had possibly come into play. You are intuitive there. Thanks for reading the article. I truly hope that the subject matter touches the hearts and minds of many, many people. And Molly, it did seem peculiar. 30 years is a long time to hold the ashes. As you so eloquently stated…”it truly is no different than keeping the cremated remains of human loved ones”. There is definitely room for understanding. Thank you. So sorry to hear about your cat.

  3. This is great! Thank you for sharing Sophia’s adventures. What a great story, I chuckled the whole way through. I also have a fur ball, microfiber cutie. He gets the craziest stuff stuck in his pom pom tail, and beard. I’m always pulling the mischief out of his hair. They are so well worth it though. Also, it’s true that we must worry when they wander, as they are so carefree and unaware of dangers that are lurking around the corner. Thanks for the reminder, and I love this post!  Best Regards, Lisa.

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